Transformation is a scary idea and a scary process. It is easy to look at ourselves and see things we wish to improve. It's much harder to actually approach that cliff of transformation and ponder throwing ourselves over it. This essay is not about the act of transforming, but instead how to do so.
The problem, of course, is that transformation is like jumping over a cliff. To actually do it requires resolve and a refusal to ever look back, much less go back. And it requires resolve to see that there's a chance we may end up hurt. Like any cliff, flinging ourselves over it carelessly is more likely to involve pain than growth, both for ourselves and for those around us. Unlike an actual cliff, when we throw ourselves over transformation, we drag bits and pieces of other people with us and risk hurting far more than just ourselves.
When we're looking at transforming, we tend to pace back and forth across that cliff edge, looking for an easy way down. We want to find the shortcut, the way to go forward without risk, without fear. There is never a real shortcut, however. We sometimes think we've found an easy way, but it tends to be either ineffectual or worse than just jumping.
What we need to do is find a way to create our own parachute for the leap. We can't rely on other people to give us a push, because no one else can make us transform. We need to find a way to spin a parachute out of our own Flame and put our faith in ourselves and the Divine and jump intelligently.
What is an intelligent jump? There are things we can do to minimize impact. First of all, when we realize we're coming up on a major life-changing event, it helps to do our best to remove all other obstacles. When facing the cliff, it's the wrong time to look at new relationships, getting a pet, changing jobs, or anything not directly related to the cliff in question. (Sometimes it is the job or the relationship - but then don't do the other big things!) Smooth out all the things that can be smoothed ahead of time. Be gentle with ourselves when we approach the cliff.
And, of course, most importantly: when we realize we're prepared enough, to boot ourselves over instead of waiting and circling and looking for a better way. Sometimes, all there is left to do is leap.
Questions:
What transformation fears you? What are your cliffs?
What would you use as a parachute? Where will you get it?
What do these cliffs and transformations mean to you? What do you expect to find on the other side?