A little Divine Drama
Do you court drama in your life? Not just conflict, but being the center of a gripping story that swirls around you and drags everyone along in its wake? Do you only feel alive when there are things going wrong for you to complain about? Are other people real, or only actors in your drama?
There are people that feel alive only when their world is crumbling around them. They don't know how to cope with what they claim will make them happy, so they sabotage themselves and then beg for pity. And because they are experts, there is always someone around to give them that pity. They burn through people, using other people's emotional resources for their own amusement instead of growing their own and learning how to stand on their own feet.
I don't know how a person becomes drama-addicted, but I do know that it's a dangerous addiction, both to the person involved and the people around them. Instead of trying to improve their own life and the life of those around them, they try to drag everyone down. A success for someone else is a direct threat for the drama-addicted. Only bad things are allowed to exist in their world for long.
Drama-addiction hurts people. It smothers flames and destroys lives. No one can thrive in that situation.
Now the hard part: drama is something we all must deal with at times. Not only that, but it does have appeal. Being at the center of things and having people scurring to try and solve it can give a tremendous sense of power. There is a constant lure to let the drama continue that we might revel in the attention longer. There's also the desire to deny one's own drama and make people go away, to reject the help and hide out of embarrassment. We must find a middle road.
We deserve help from our loved ones when drama happens, and we should equally support those we love. But we need to be careful that we're nurturing Flames and not using drama to replace them.
Questions:
When do you indulge in your own personal drama? Why?
Do you get easily drawn in by drama-laden people? Do you enable the drama?
How do you evaluate when people need help and when they're just wanting attention?
There are people that feel alive only when their world is crumbling around them. They don't know how to cope with what they claim will make them happy, so they sabotage themselves and then beg for pity. And because they are experts, there is always someone around to give them that pity. They burn through people, using other people's emotional resources for their own amusement instead of growing their own and learning how to stand on their own feet.
I don't know how a person becomes drama-addicted, but I do know that it's a dangerous addiction, both to the person involved and the people around them. Instead of trying to improve their own life and the life of those around them, they try to drag everyone down. A success for someone else is a direct threat for the drama-addicted. Only bad things are allowed to exist in their world for long.
Drama-addiction hurts people. It smothers flames and destroys lives. No one can thrive in that situation.
Now the hard part: drama is something we all must deal with at times. Not only that, but it does have appeal. Being at the center of things and having people scurring to try and solve it can give a tremendous sense of power. There is a constant lure to let the drama continue that we might revel in the attention longer. There's also the desire to deny one's own drama and make people go away, to reject the help and hide out of embarrassment. We must find a middle road.
We deserve help from our loved ones when drama happens, and we should equally support those we love. But we need to be careful that we're nurturing Flames and not using drama to replace them.
Questions:
When do you indulge in your own personal drama? Why?
Do you get easily drawn in by drama-laden people? Do you enable the drama?
How do you evaluate when people need help and when they're just wanting attention?
posted by Vieva @ 12:47 PM
2 Comments:
At 2:03 PM,
Anonymous said…
This is my private fear...that I am absolutely guilty of this and either helpless to recognize it, or unwilling to do so. I have learned how to spot this in a few others...those folks you meet for whom no helpful advice suffices, nothing works and relieves whatever the issue happens to be. How does one catch oneself?
At 7:31 PM,
Vieva said…
I think part of it is simply BEING aware that the problem exists. And ask yourself: does everything concern yourself? If someone else has a problem, do you have to top it? Can you yield the stage?
I'm sure we all do it sometimes .. the trick is catching ourselves and stopping it. And not feeding into other people's drama, of course.
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